All men were created equal. This is what it says in our Constitution.
Discounting the irony in which it doesn’t mention the 3/5 slave’s clause. This
is otherwise a good concept. It essentially implies that no matter one’s race,
creed, religious belief, nationality, or any other distinguishing
characteristic in America, they should be granted an equal opportunity. I have
written a blog, which discussed a little bit of a piece of landmark legislation
known as the American With Disabilities Act. However, today while doing some
early morning reading, I was forced to ask myself this question, “Have we come
all that far?”
This
year on July 26, The Americans with Disabilities Act will celebrate 23 years.
It is almost a quarter-century old. It’s almost at the point where it has to
make a significant life decision and stop relying on mommy and daddy but has changed
for people with disabilities since the Act? My argument is that on the surface,
improvements have been made, but legislation cannot legislate a cure for
ignorance.
This
morning I found myself being proactive as my aide was sleepily frying me some
bacon. I was cruising several news sites. Yahoo is set as my homepage, but to
get a fair and balanced view of what is going on, I purposely look at both
Liberal and Conservative sites. However, I did not get very far. Those of you familiar
with Yahoo’s format know that there are often several stories along with a
slider on the page. Immediately, the first story this morning caught my eye. The
original title of the article by Jordana Devon was “Second grader in wheelchair
set apart from classmates in a school photo.” Myself being in a wheelchair, I
was intrigued by the article. The first thought that went through my head was, “I
can’t be reading this right! This is not the 80’s anymore! We have One
Direction and not NKOTB on the top of the Boy Band scene. No way can say what I
think it says.” So to make sure I was reading it right, I clicked on the
article. Unfortunately, I was reading the article correctly.
In
an extremely well-written article, the Yahoo Canada blogger lays out a
disturbing story. Jordana tells a story of a seven-year-old in British Columbia
who was set apart from his classmates when taking a second-grade class photo.
The little boy named Miles Ambridge can be seen in the picture, trying to
strain his body to be a part of the group. Jordana goes on to explain Miles’s
disability as Spinal Muscular Atrophy. As she said in her article, Miles had
been confined to a wheelchair ever since he was little. The report then gives
readers the viewpoints of what Jordana would display as “heartbroken parents”
in which the parents demanded a re-shoot of the class photo but were given the
usual rope-a-dope-it’s-not-my-fault-response. It’s the other guy’s fault by the
school and the photography company called Lifetouch. Before concluding her
article, Jordana asks a very poignant question, “What do you think: Has this
incident been blown out of proportion, or should the photo company be ashamed
for its placement of Miles in the class shot?” Speaking from a disabled
person’s point of view, I will say exactly what I said on the web page.
As a disabled
individual, I do not believe this situation I being blown out of proportion. It
is not the 80’s anymore, and we have legislation that guaranteed the disabled
community to be given equal opportunity. Are we so messed up as a society that
we teach our children so early to ostracize those different from us? By the
looks of this photo, it is not the children who need to be in school but rather
the adults. As Jordana quoted Miles’s mother as saying, “Kids can be cruel, but
adults should know better.” Forgive me for saying so, Mrs. Ambridge, but yes,
they should, but sadly they do not. The photo that your son was a part of
clearly indicates a misunderstanding of difference. A misunderstanding that
legislation will not correct. I am genuinely sorry for what you and your family
were subjected to. I hope this incident does not jade you because while there
are those in life who are intolerant of differences—those of us who are
tolerant of differences far outnumber them. I am sure Miles is a great person,
as can be seen by his beaming smile. I live in Northwestern Pennsylvania and
would love to talk to you and your husband, along with meeting Miles, if at all
possible. What you guys have gone through is ridiculous and sad, but I applaud
your response to the situation whole-heartedly.
As
I said in my posting about the Yahoo article, what low Miles and his family had
to go through is appalling, but it happens more frequently than one would like
to admit. That being said, if Miles’s situation isn’t bad enough, there is yet
another story I heard about this morning that enrages me even more. When I
first heard about it, I could not even begin to blog because I knew if I did, I
would be angry and vindictive. Also, my blog’s purpose would be defeated by my
anger. After several hours of reflection, I was able to talk about the
incidence that I watched and not exploded.
As
those of you familiar with Yahoo who are aware, if you read one article, they
often have videos or links to other similar articles embedded within the item
you are reading. Jordana’s article on Miles and his situation were no
different. Near the end of the article was a video link that said, “Teens Steal
Man’s Wheelchair On Long Island, Brag About It.” After reading the article on
Miles, needless to say, I was in a mood to be aggravated. So I clicked on the
video, which can also be found below. The video came out of Niagara County and
a news organization there. It was of a News broadcast where a News Anchor was
beginning a story. Superimposed behind her was a picture of a
wheelchair with the words “Wheelchair Stolen” underneath it. Quickly they cut
to the main level. A man named Vincent had his wheelchair stolen from his home
by a pair of 14-year-old boys. The boys, after taking it for a “joy ride,”
admitted to dumping the heavy chair in a nearby bush. Unfortunately, it is
believed that someone saw the chair and unsounded with it. This leaves Vincent
in a predicament. Vincent is now forced to go around in a manual chair and be
pushed around by his mother and others.
These two stories
mentioned above not only irritate me beyond belief but re-emphasize the
importance of education and advocacy. I am well aware that no matter where one
goes, they will find ignorant people, but only through blogs like mine are
advocacy groups such as United Cerebral Palsy. T.V. shows like Teal Sherer ‘s
“My Gimpy Life” that a better understanding of disability will hopefully one
day come to light. My goal in re-telling such horrible stories like this is to
spark, you the reader, into action!
As a disabled
individual, I can be outraged and say how messed up these scenarios are, and it
is my responsibility as a writer to do so. Still, you, as a reader, have
responsibilities as well. It is only through acceptance of differences and your
outrage at these situations that little boys like Miles may find a day where
they are no longer ostracized for something they cannot control or help. Miles
may be young and innocent now, but that innocence will not last long. He will
one day realize that he is different, as many of us do. However, if society has
changed even just a little bit by the time this young man reaches that age,
then maybe he will not be ostracized for his differences but possibly
celebrated. Then maybe young boys will think twice before stealing somebody’s
lifeline to independence. I don’t preach very much, but that’s some food for
thought.
Footnotes
2.) http://mygimpylife.com/
Three things. 1) This story about the little boy is way sad and f'ed up. I'd be spitting nails if I were his mother. 2) There was a paraplegic in Philly who was castrated in a fight with a guy visiting the nursing home the paraplegic was living in. Nice, right? 3) The "all men are created equal" line is in the Declaration of Independence, not the Constitution. :)~
ReplyDeletei liked your sussinked comment. i like the list of things:) my bad on the three fist clause thing. i should have known that. i was a history major. shame shame as far as the other two things you mentioned. you said if you were the mother you would be spitting nails. while this is a appropriate response, i am saddened that you and i and members of the disability community appear to be the only ones willing to spit nails at someone. why is it that people ae so self endulged lately that they canyt think of anypne but their own circomstance? as far as the guy beig casterated, first of all hly shit ouch.and how sad that that even occurred. thanks for reading merideth
ReplyDeleteTrust me, there are plenty of people from all different kinds of communities wanting to spit nails at all of the above mentioned. The problem is...the world just isn't fair and just :( You know that, I know that, and we can all only do what we can, when we can to try and make things a bit more pleasant for who we can. There are so many things to want to spit nails at...and when you fix all of those things you will find more. The world will always have cruel people. In the situation with the little boy and the picture I think it is more of people just being stupid and not using their brains! I don't think it was anything personal against the young boy, I think they just didn't think about any of the kids in the picture. Hopefully everyone that reads these stories carry it with them, and learn from those hurtful actions. Maybe all the readers will one day find themselves in a situation where they can stick up for someone who maybe can't stick up for themselves.
ReplyDeleteI don’t know how to feel about this particular comment. On the one hand I agree with you that there are tons of things to spit nails at but on the other hand the philosophy of “we do what we can.,” I know what you meant by it or at least I think you do. That we can only do so much. That’s a little non-proactive it’s surprising coming from you. Yes, the struggle to get someone’s attention by being a pain in the ass may be hard but sometimes the fight is just as rewarding as the reward itself. The whole point of it not being intentional, to exclude the kid is probably true--but that’s the point! No one even thinks anymore--they just do. They don’t think that a sweet little seven-year-old may be effected by it later or that his parents probably sat at home wondering what this world had come to. They don’t think before they act or speak. That could describe 3 quarters of the world’s population and that is the sad part.
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